“…[t]ill death do us part”. Five words. One phrase, one meaning? Is it? Maybe it has multiple meanings. Like, if they start getting on your nerves, get unattractive, or if you just don’t like them anymore, etc., etc. Yeah that sounds like the word “death” to me.
45-50% of first marriages end in divorce in America, according to Jennifer Bake, a psychologist at the Forest Institute of Professional Psychology in Springfield. The rates for a marriage failing, gets higher after the first. Second: 60-67% and third: 70-73%. According to Divorce.com, the five top reasons why divorces fail is because of finance, communication, family, sex, and friends. It also states, “[I]t’s the lack of communication about money problems that jeopardizes a marriage more than the financial problems alone.”
Miscommunications in a relationship are prone to happen, but it’s how you set your differences aside and LISTEN. You might hear them, but are you truly LISTENING. As one of the world’s 10 most divorced nations, America, WE THE PEOPLE, need… Help.
What if I told you, there’s a way where you can talk about your potential pitfall, which could hinder you marriage from lasting a lifetime, before it’s too late?
According to a survey published in the Journal of Family Psychology, couples with premarital education reported higher levels of marital satisfaction and experienced a 30% decline in the likelihood of divorce over five years. It’s a way to make sure that who you think is Mr. or Mrs. Right, is truly RIGHT for YOU.
Now, let’s examine the “What if’s?” What if it creates problems or more of them? What if your partner disagrees with counseling period? What if you don’t have time?
Well what better way to test the relationship, before you get married, then find out what you are dealing with after you get married? And if you truly love someone one you WILL make time and do whatever you can to make sure your relationship work. DO NOT BE SELFISH.
Premarital counseling is somewhere you can create positive resolutions, learn conflict resolution skills, get realistic expectation about time (ex. when to have kids), avoid toxic resentments, dismantle fears about marriage, and address concerns (ex. money and time).
Imagine you and your partner growing together even more as a couple AND individuals, gaining more foresight and being more comfortable around each other than you ever thought you could. No one wants their marriage to and become apart of America’s divorce statistic.
Premarital counseling is a great resource to you and your partner. So I now challenge you… To take precaution, take an extra step for committing to your spouse, and create a marriage with an unbreakable bond.
No one wants their marriage to fail and end up included in America’s divorce statistic. Premarital counseling is like the best insurance policy a couple could ever purchase.
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